Let me start with a quote from the bible. This isn't a religious blog entry, but it really does give a feel and an understanding as to what I'm about to express here.
Hebrews 4:12
"For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart."
Quite clearly, words have an impact on people. I'm sure we've all heard the sayings like these:
"The pen is mightier than the sword."
"Words make or break a person."
Recently, I heard something that was a little upsetting; a tiny rumor that involves me. I would've never known about it unless a friend told me. When I heard it from him, it did stab at my heart a little, because it was a comment made by someone that I respected in general. That person didn't say something malicious to be exact, but it just hurt to hear it. Still though, how true it was I didn't know, but the thought of it definitely made for an uneasy moment.
There was a recent incident as well, when I was talking to a couple of friends. Somewhere along the conversation, my status as a Bumiputera was brought up. There and then, I had to listen to sentences that basically labelled me as a freeloader of government perks, a person with an unfair advantage over my friends in almost everything. It didn't help that they said it in a way that portrayed them as cheated an myself as undeserving.
This is the second time I've faced this sort of thing. The first time was when a friend said, "Oh so that's why you could get the scholarship la," referring to me being in UTP under the PETRONAS sponsorship. I even remember blogging a little about it, one of my first few entries on this blog (
here). It's funny to think that on both occasions, both people that said these things came from the same place. What could I say, am I cursed with a label because I am born of a native race? I did feel hurt, but I didn't want to argue. It would've been futile, not to mention fruitless.
Lately, as well, I've been watching a few Korean variety shows. My interest in some of these people on the shows led me to search about them online. It is incredible, the kind of slander some of these people get. They're not Hollywood stars, but their online treatment in certain places are no better than the paparazzi who are bloodthirsty for some dirt. I do sympathise for celebrities in that respect, regardless if they're nice people or not.
Common knowledge says that the best way to deal with this sort of situation is simply to let it go in one ear and out the other. Ignore the comments that people make about you because you know who you are. Well, I guess many celebrities are numb to this sort of thing. They're so used to it they know how to filter the trash talk out. Still, they are just as human as I am. At some point, they must feel the hurt directed to them from people who seem to love to point out human error like it's the debut of a scientific phenomenon.
Still, there's not much that we can do other than to live our lives respectably, that will clearly display who we are and vindicate ourselves.
What I really want to say though, is be mindful of the things you say, be it to your friends, family, even your enemies. Sometimes, you really have no idea how you may hurt a person (reminder to myself too). Even if you have to criticise someone, take the effort to be sensitive and be caring about it, instead of being demeaning. Encourage people with your words, because it does go a long way in helping a person to grow in strength.